Saturday, April 4, 2020

Mom Fell, Hit Head, Broke Foot

On Thursday I get the dreaded email from Sandy.  Mom fell!  Sandy got the call from the facility mom lives at around 4 am, they were loading mom up on an ambulance to take her to the hospital.  Four hours later Sandy sent out the email stating that she had a broken foot (fractured in three places), and a brain bleed, and that she was moving into ICU.  NO ONE could go to the hospital due to "THE VIRUS", so it was a waiting game at home for everyone.

Hospital Room

They did another CT Scan and found that her brain bleed did not get any bigger.  They moved her into a regular hospital room sometime that night.  About 3 pm our time I called her, and she sounded real good.  They had taken a third CT Scan, and no change, which was good.  They planned to release her soon.  WOW!  What a change from just 24 hours earlier when we wondered if she was going to make it or not.  When you or anyone you know is not there to "see for yourself", you always think the worse...
Medical Shoe
So mom has a special shoe, I am thinking probably a bit like this one above.  Not sure even which foot she broke...all we know is that she is back in the facility, in her little apartment, and is doing surprisingly well.  She got a good nights sleep.  She can get up with her walker (which she always uses anyways) and make it around the apartment wearing her special shoe.  Due to "THE VIRUS" they are bringing all meals to her, so this is a perfect time to have a broken foot, if there is such a time.  She said that she keeps the shoe on all the time because when she takes it off, it hurts...with it on, doesn't hurt at all.

It sure gives one a time to pause, and think about ALL those other people who are in a hospital right now, due or not due to "THE VIRUS".  Think of a child who fell and hit their head real hard.  Off to the hospital they go,  and no contact with family.  Think of that mother and father, wondering how their child is doing.  (Reminds me of when I was a sick when I was born that mom went home without me.  I was so sad, sitting there in that little incubator ...)    Seriously, it is a hard time right now for many...we are just so lucky that mom is doing so well.  Now, as long as doesn't come down with "THE VIRUS" in the next 14 days, I would say she came out of this pretty lucky and very blessed.

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Dad Would Have Been 92

Dad would have been celebrating his 92nd Birthday Today (April 1st).  The picture above was taken two years ago at Sandy and Arny's house.  It was a Sunday, Easter Sunday.  It was the last birthday I would have with him because last year my son graduated from a Chiropractic College in Missouri and we just could not make both.  I wrote this in the blog back then pertaining to his 90th Birthday:
Easter has fallen on Dad’s birthday only four times in his lifetime, 1934, 1945, 1956, and 2018…and will do so again in 2029, but dad says he does not want to be around ‘that’ long…which is understandable. 
Well, he did not even make two years...and I KNOW he does not mind, although many of us do because we miss him so much.

Dad was musically inclined with his voice, but playing any instrument just wasn't his thing...but he did enjoy fiddling with a Ukulele now and then.  I think it got put in, and taken out, of more than one yard telling what ever happened to it.

Dad had one brother, Leroy...we affectionately called him Uncle Red, even though his red hair turned white a long time ago.  Above is a picture of Leroy (right) and mom and dad before they got married.  Dad was in his navy uniform.  My guess, it was 1947, perhaps 1946.

Both dad and Leroy were very jovial, even to the point of being jokesters.  Leroy was the king of the two, older child and all...he dished out many a good joke...and was the receiver of many too.  Dad, well, being born on April 1st, had many a joke played on him just because he was born on April Fools Day.  As a young child I remember someone at church giving him a large, nicely wrapped box for his birthday.  By the time he got down to the sixth or seventh box (open the big box, a slightly smaller box is found, open it, and another slightly smaller box is found, etc) each nicely wrapped, he got down to the last one which was the size of a ring box...just to open it and find a piece of Bazooka Bubble Gum.

I couldn't wait for him to open it just so I could read the short little Bazooka Joe Comic found on the inside of the wrapper of each piece of gum. 

On June 5, 1948 mom and dad married in San Jose by candle light at 7 pm.  Grandpa Burdick performed the ceremony, and that is him standing behind mom and dad.   Uncle Red was at the far right.  Mom's sister Aunt Mary was next to mom, and on the far left is future Aunt Mary Lee, who later married mom's brother Kenny.  I 'think' everyone else in the picture has passed now except for mom and Mary.  Others in the picture were friends of mom and dad.

My brother Bob sent me this picture the other day.  It is the wedding of our cousin Marlene, around 1950.  That is mom standing to the left of the bride (Marlene), and Bob's first mother-in-law, Anne, is standing next to mom.  The interesting thing is...the wedding dress that Marlene is wearing is mom's wedding dress...and the dress mom is wearing is one of the dresses her bride's maids wore...most likely the one Aunt Mary wore.

This is, I think, the last picture that all of us were in together.  It was taken December 2017.  Look at that smile on both mom and dad's face!  A very precious moment.  FYI: Back Row L to R - Jim, Roger, Dave (me);  Middle Row: Patti, Sandy, Bob; and Mom and Dad in front.

Four years ago, on dad's 88th birthday, Mom decided to give up drinking, and was handing her Bud Light to Arny.  It was about time, we were all getting worried about her!  (Honestly, neither mom nor dad drank or smoked...she was teasing Arny who had left his beer sitting around and she grabbed it while he was not looking...I just happened to have the camera ready to get the shot.)

I am so thankful for the many times over the past ten years that Marcia and I were able to celebrate things like Birthdays, Father's Day, Mother's Day, 4th of July, Memorial Day, Labor Day, Thanksgiving,  Christmas and of course, Wedding Anniversary days with both Mom and Dad, let alone other times that we gathered at Sandy and Arny's for a meal or just a good get-together.  For a few years mom and dad lived right next door to Sandy and Arny, so when we were 'Backyard Camping' it was very easy to visit them.  

The irony is, had dad been alive now, there is no way we could have made his birthday this year.  CoronaVirus prevents "group gatherings", and right now mom (and dad had he survived) is in total facility lock-down.  "IF" a resident leaves the facility grounds for any reason, even a doctor's appointment, they will be under strict 14 day quarantine in their apartments to be sure that they don't spread the virus if they caught it.  So far, the entire facility is virus free...thank the Lord!  Of course, we wouldn't even attempt to drive to California right now...with our luck, we would get in the middle of west Texas and have some State Trooper make us park and sit it out.  (Actually, have not heard stories of RVers being stopped, but many state and federal parks are closed, as are some commercially owned parks.)

So today (April 1st) I will miss my annual phone call, won't be able to visit, can't celebrate a wonderful day with we will just have to celebrate it without dad.  In a way, he will be there, in the hearts of each child, each grandchild, each relative, and especially a spouse who loves him so very much.  Happy Birthday Dad...this one you get to celebrate with your mom and dad and brother and countless friends and relatives who we also miss so very much.  Have a nice Heavenly Birthday!